The Best Thing We Can Do For Our Kids!
My father was the 9th of 10 children. When I think about how challenging it has been at times to raise my 2 beautiful boys, I can’t imagine how his mother did it. Just thinking about 12 people in a house with one bathroom gives me anxiety.
My father used to talk about how clean the kitchen floor was…how does a mother of 10 keep the kitchen floor clean?!?
For a woman who spent the duration of 20 years either pregnant or breast feeding, with little munchkins running around everywhere all the time, my grandmother seemed to manage well, and lived a long healthy life, finally passing away at 105.
Life was different back then of course. My father’s family lived on a street with many other giant families. Kids were always out and about, doing the crazy stuff that kids do, with little to no supervision.
Sounds like a blast doesn’t it?
Back then there were fewer expectations of parents. When my dad was a kid there was no pressure to drive the kids to birthday parties, soccer practice and play dates because they didn’t have a car! Solves that problem!
Good parents from that era made sure their kids had food, shelter, clothes and love and that was about it. My father was expected to be home for dinner at 6:00 and to not get arrested. Other than that, he was on his own. Free to take on the world!
Kids grew up with the confidence that comes from self discovery, the resourcefulness that comes from problem solving, the self reliance and independence that comes from being out on their own, succeeding and failing and figuring shit out.
Nowadays parents are expected to entertain their children and help with homework and take them to the indoor trampoline place, and are so tired from all of it when the day is done that they collapse in front of the TV with a cheeseburger, some beer, and a pint of ice cream.
We are so busy being perfect parents that we have forgotten something critical: we have forgotten to take care of ourselves.
So much time is spent trying to exceed the higher and higher expectations of parenting in our society that we are no longer meeting our own needs as human beings.
We have to turn this ship around pronto!
The BEST thing we can do as parents for our children is to take extra good care of ourselves because in doing so, we are teaching our children to do the same.
Parents these days devote their entire lives to their kids, and although the intentions are noble and we mean well, it teaches the little guys to rely on us for everything.
I want my kids to grow up having the confidence, self worth, resourcefulness, self reliance, and independence to go out into the world and chase their dreams! Not live in my basement, unemployed.
I feel we must model this behavior.
We have to make our health and wellbeing a priority. We have to go out and chase our own dreams and express our own creativity and challenge ourselves.
How we live our lives everyday, in every area, is teaching our children how to live.
I don't know who said it but I believe it: "Children close their ears to advice, but open their eyes to example".
If we eat crappy food, our kids learn to eat in an unhealthy way.
If we don’t exercise, meditate, and sleep enough, our kids learn that all these things are not important.
But if we consciously fill our own needs and take care of our bodies, our minds, and our souls, and we bravely follow our dreams, we will be the best role models that our children could ask for.
I believe that the greatest gift we can give to them is the greatest version of ourselves.