How to Overcome a Limiting Belief.
I was listening to a Hay House radio show the other day (my fave!) about limiting beliefs and how they shape our lives. The message was what we have all heard before but sometimes forget.
What we choose to believe determines our decisions and our decisions create our lives.
What they didn't point out in the show, and what I think is important to note here, is that there are 2 kinds of limiting beliefs; ones that are conscious and ones that are subconscious.
The subconscious ones are what I want to talk about today.
These beliefs fly under our radar and can cause problems because we are not even aware that they are influencing our thoughts, feelings and actions every minute of every day.
In fact, when I first started to recognize some of my subconscious limiting beliefs about 10 years ago, I was frightened to realize that I had been walking around making all sorts of important decisions based on irrational distortions of reality, which were rooted in these powerful beliefs that I didn't even know I had! OMG!
I was actually living in an alternate reality based on all these misconceptions that had become my foundation.
I believed things like:
1. Life is something that happens TO me. I am a victim and that is just the way it is. I have no power.
2. I am my childhood. I am my past.
3. I need to pretend to be someone I'm not because who I am blows.
4. Other people have an agenda and are looking for ways to manipulate me. I can't trust anyone.
5. What matters above all else is what people think of me.
6. Other people and outside circumstances are responsible for my happiness and/or misery.
7. I don't deserve anything good because I am not worthy.
8. Sacrificing myself for others makes me a good person with great character.
You can imagine how this kind of thinking effected my life. No wonder I was a mental and emotional wreck all the time!
Luckily, right before I was about to self-destruct, I happen to stumble upon an idea that was life changing. I can't remember or find who said it, but the message was one that stuck with me.
"Once you realize that what you KNOW is more important and powerful than what you were TAUGHT TO BELIEVE, you will be forever transformed."
I took this sentiment as a challenge back then, and I immediately began to tackle the hidden beliefs that were holding me back. And in the end, I was indeed, a completely, different person.
Unconscious beliefs that are programmed into our heads as small children by our parents, culture, religion and society can have a massive effect on how we live our lives as adults without us even realizing it.
Changing our limiting, negative beliefs and replacing them with empowering, optimistic beliefs, immediately starts to effect our happiness and success in all areas of our lives.
So how do we change a limiting belief that we have been carrying around for years? The following is what has worked for me. I hope it helps you too!
How to Overcome A Limiting Belief
1. Take some time a really think about what beliefs might be hiding just below the surface and make a list. Thinking about your parent's beliefs, your friend's beliefs, your spiritual beliefs and your cultural beliefs may help you gain some clarity. Then, choose one belief from your list that you want to change.
2. Determine how this belief is effecting your life in a negative way. If I believe, for example, that "all the ideas are already taken", then I may not pursue song writing, and this would significantly limit my creative expression, as well as any future career I may have in music.
3. Next, think of how it would feel and how you would act if you believed something different, like "There are tons of new song ideas out there!"
4. Create an affirmation of the new belief you want to embrace, like "I am filled with new ideas and I am writing amazing new material everyday!"
5. Write this affirmation down and say it out loud several times a day, over and over, for 21 days.
Use the new affirmation, or an abbreviated version of it, as a mantra in your daily meditation.
It is completely ok and totally normal if you don't wholeheartedly believe what you ware saying at first. Over time, the writing down and speaking of your affirmation will start to re-program you subconscious mind. After you expose the subconscious mind to the repeated suggestion over and over, it will start to see it as fact. It will become your new belief.
As Wayne Dyer says, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change".
Some ideas for empowering beliefs and affirmations:
1. I am a good person and I'm getting better everyday
2. I am changing the world in a big great way
3. Anything is possible
4. Everything always works out in the end
5. I ask for help when I need it and people love helping me
6. I am writing everyday and I am filled with new ideas and inspiration!
7. I am awake and living my life on purpose
8. I am taking my power back I am no longer a victim
9. I am responsible for my own happiness
10. I trust others and they trust me
11. I have more than enough time, energy, health, wealth and love.
And that is what I was thinking about today.
Thank you so much for reading!
With love and gratitude,